In her first major work in decades, the follow-up to the national bestseller Codependent No More, Melody Beattie identifies how codependent behavior has changed and shows listeners how to get back their lives by choosing behaviors that work for them.
In Codependent No More, Melody Beattie introduced the world to the term codependency. Now a modern classic, this book established Beattie as a pioneer in self-help literature and endeared her to millions of people who longed for healthier relationships. Twenty-five years later, concepts such as "self-care" and "setting boundaries" have become entrenched in mainstream culture. Now Beattie has written a follow-up volume, The New Codependency, which clears up misconceptions about codependency, identifies how codependent behavior has changed, and provides a new generation with a road map to wellness.
The question remains: What is and what isn't codependency? Beattie here reminds us that much of codependency is normal behavior. It's about crossing lines. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too little, or overly engage. Feeling resentment after giving is not the same as heartfelt generosity. Narcissism and self-love, enabling and nurturing, and controlling and setting boundaries are not interchangeable terms. In The New Codependency, Beattie explores these differences, effectively invoking her own inspiring story and those of others, to empower us to step out of the victim role forever. Codependency, she shows, is not an illness but rather a series of behaviors that once broken down and analyzed can be successfully combated.
Each section offers an overview of and a series of activities pertaining to a particular behavior---caretaking, controlling, manipulation, denial, repression, etc.---enabling us to personalize our own step-by-step guide to wellness. These sections, in conjunction with a series of tests allowing us to assess the level of our codependent behavior, demonstrate that while it may not seem possible now, we have the power to take care of ourselves, no matter what we are experiencing.
Punctuated with Beattie's renowned candor and intuitive wisdom, The New Codependency is an owner's manual to learning to be who we are and gives us the tools necessary to reclaim our lives by renouncing unhealthy practices.
Lorna Raver's rich vocal personality captures the author's candor and wisdom in this follow-up volume to the classic CODEPENDENT NO MORE. Beattie describes current misconceptions of codependency, then makes observations on how the abuse of multiple substances has changed codependent tendencies. She explores how recovery from addictive behaviors and codependency is about personal responsibility, not blame. Raver delivers the author's simple examples of the difference between controlling behavior and normal behavior, as well as her reminder that behavioral change is often uncomfortable. The author calls this book an "owner's manual" that provides a "roadmap to wellness" that will help listeners turn behavioral deficits into assets. Overall, Raver delivers the author's encouraging remarks with warmth and clarity. Pen and notebook are suggested for quizzes and questionnaires. G.D.W. (c) AudioFile 2009, Portland, Maine